The House of Representatives today voted on the Constitutional amendment to ban gay marriage. Since the Senate had already voted down the measure the vote meant nothing from a legislative standpoint. Of course, from a political angle it was very important to shoring up the GOP base. (See post from 7/14 under News and Politics)
But beyond the mere smokescreen of internal party pandering, what still confuses me on this issue is the reasoning at its core. Who the hell cares who marries whom and, if you do care, for the sake of all that’s holy, why?
I live in Massachusetts or, as the radical conservatives call it, Satan’s Playground, and you may have heard we are way ahead of the curve on the Gay Marriage issue. We let gay people get married. And don’t be mistaken. Eventually gay marriage will be legal. Time is on the side of the Gay community. 30 years ago an openly gay character on TV would never be tolerated, but I bet Aunt Millie in Iowa just loved the last episode of Will and Grace this past spring.
Not only do I live in a place that allows same-sex marriage but I am in a heterosexual marriage in the same state. According to the logic of the opponents, the sanctity of the instiution that my wife and I enjoy is in immediate danger! Right this second! Why, if I look out my window I bet I’ll see a married gay couple about to storm into my home and sully our sanctity!
Let’s see. Nope. Nobody there.
What are people afraid of? How can two men or two women in love and having a ceremony to commit to each other be harmful? Is the reasoning that gay marriage will seem so appealing that my spouse and I will decide to divorce and find new same-sex partners?
Or is it more of a fiscal objection? Married people can get tax breaks, have an easier time getting loans, and have access to companies health insurance. Is the money going to run out if these people get these benefits? Is that why a minimum wage hike never passes and universal healthcare isn’t going to happen anytime soon? Because we now have a huge deficit? That doesn’t seem to stop defense spending or Congressional pay hikes.
Then there is the “slippery slope” argument that goes like this: “If gay people are allowed to marry, what is to stop someone from marrying a sheep, or a pig or a tree?” Here is my answer: Consent. Two consenting adults who want to get married is a beautiful, righteous and (should be) legal thing. Someone who forces a ewe or a sow or a sycamore into a marriage they can’t possibly understand is a whack job. (And shame on you for thinking of it, Sen. Santorum!)
That leaves religion and (as Groucho might say) Thank you I think I will.
Is it because God (or least the people that profess to work for him) say its wrong? Fine. Don’t have gay marriage ceremonies in your church. Don’t invite gay couples to your Bible reading or pot luck dinner. I’m guessing they don’t want to be there anyway.
But don’t use your religious beliefs to promote discrimination of a group of people or deny them the rights that you enjoy in our free, SECULAR society. Despite the actions of the current administration and its supporters, our government is still for ALL of the citizens. And besides, it doesn’t seem like a very, well, Christian, thing to do.
We as a people have already had to put amendments on our constitution reminding us that ALL people are created equal, not just white men. Lets not have to do it again. All people are created equal. That’s worth repeating. All people are created equal.
This is America. You don’t have to like everybody here, but everybody gets the right to be here. Eventually the rest of the you will catch up to us here in Mass. I’ll be waiting with my new friends and newlyweds Adam and Steve. I’m sorry. Adam and Stephen.